I’m Going Through a Divorce, What Should I Do Next?
Many marriages can be saved even when they feel hopeless
You might be in a season you never thought you’d face.
The word divorce has been spoken. Maybe you said it. Maybe your spouse did. Everything feels heavy. There is confusion, fear, and exhaustion. You’re wondering, “What do I do next?” “Is this really over?” “Is there any chance this marriage can be saved?”
At Known Counseling, we meet individuals and couples right at this crossroads. People who feel like they’ve tried everything, who are certain nothing can change, who feel as if the end is inevitable. What many don’t realize is that a significant number of marriages can be saved even when they feel completely stuck.
Slowing down before making a permanent decision
When emotions are intense, it’s natural to want clarity quickly. But many people later say, “I wish we had waited before signing those papers.” Divorce is permanent, and sometimes it happens before the real issues have been fully understood or addressed.
Our first invitation at Known Counseling is simple: pause the decision. You don’t have to know today whether your marriage will survive. You only need to decide to look more closely before you end it.
The reality: many marriages on the brink can recover
Research shows that about 70 percent of couples who engage in marriage counseling experience meaningful improvement, and many of them stay together.¹
Studies also suggest that couples who go through therapy tend to have stronger relationships and better communication than similar couples who never seek help.²
Even when couples ultimately separate, counseling often provides clarity, healing, and the ability to move forward with less pain and more respect. But for many couples, it marks the turning point toward rebuilding connection.
We have seen marriages that were cold for years recover. We have seen couples who already contacted divorce lawyers find hope again. We have seen people who said, “I’m done” discover new ways to relate and reconnect.
What to do if you’re considering divorce
If your marriage feels like it’s falling apart, here are some first steps you can take:
Pause before deciding. Give yourself and your spouse time before making a final decision.
Seek clarity with support. Meet with a trained counselor who can help you understand what’s really happening beneath the surface fights.
Try small changes. Honest conversations, listening without defending, small acts of kindness, and slowing arguments can create new space between you.
Evaluate after a period of effort. After a set time, ask yourself: Have things shifted? Am I more seen? Do I feel safer? Even small movement can be a sign there is still something to build on.
These steps don’t guarantee your marriage will survive, but they can help you make decisions with clarity and confidence instead of fear and exhaustion.
Known Counseling can help
We specialize in working with couples who are on the edge of separation or divorce. We help you slow down, understand the patterns that keep you stuck, and learn new ways to communicate and rebuild connection. Our approach is practical, compassionate, and research-informed.
We serve Thornton, Northglenn, Westminster, Broomfield, Brighton, and the greater Denver area with in-person and telehealth sessions.
You don’t have to face this alone. Schedule a free 15 minute consultation with Known Counseling to talk about where you are and what might be possible from here.
References
The Wellness Counseling Center. Marriage Counseling Success Rate: How Many Couples Stay Together After Counseling? (2024)
Beasley, C. C., et al. Meta Analysis of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy Outcomes. Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, 2022
Alliance Legal Group. Divorce Rates After Marriage Counseling. 2023
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